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Whether you've lost your spouse or gone through a bitter divorce, starting a new romance at a mature age can seem like an impossible challenge. So what's the secret to finding love later in life? Psychologist Judith Sills and Dennie Hughes, author of "Dateworthy," were invited to appear on “Today” to offer tips for getting back on the dating track. Here’s their advice:

People are living longer, and having more than one mate in life isn't uncommon. First, you need to recognize what might have been invisible to you during your marriage: Flirting, dating and romance for the over-40 group is everywhere. You just didn't see it. Over 40 is the fastest growing group of singles on Internet dating services. It's in the movies, it's at your church. Bottom line? Being single doesn't have the stigma it once did. You're in good company.

Sure, it's tough to meet new people. A lot of us have anxiety about appearing in front of a stranger wearing only a smile! Don't worry that you don't look like you did at 20. It's all step by step. Take a good internal look at yourself. It's not about "being too fat, too old, too tired." You have to change your attitude. Life is about reinvention. No one person can fix your life. No one person can make you happy. You have to do it yourself and the rest will follow.

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